So, it’s going on two weeks since I crowned and honestly my first week back at work hasn’t been all that weird. People have been real nice and none have made any weird comments or rude gestures; that is until today…
First though lemme fill you in. I run a Real Estate office here in Miami, luckily my office is owned by my Godmother. So she’s obviously cool with me wearing all white and just using a scarf on my head. I used to have real long hair so the change is evident, either way back to the story.
Everyday we get deliveries from DHL, FedEx, and UPS. I know most of the delivery guys and they’re all very nice. They say hello, we have small talk and its goodbye. However there’s this one UPS guy that never says hello, always seems to be in a rush and the only words in three years that he’s ever uttered to me were “sign here” and “What’s your name”. But today was different; apparently the white scarf over my head threw him off. When I opened the partisan window, he looks up and his eyes open way wide and he’s like “What happened to your head”?!
He caught me soo off guard that I just stood there in total amazement and all I could think was WTF? I guess he noticed how much he over-reacted that he promptly lowered his head and said sorry. I told him it was okay and he quickly left. Afterwards I sat wondering why it bothered me soo much. It wasn’t because of his question, or even his tone/facial expression. But instead it was the fact that for three years this man never said a simple “Hello” or even responded to my “Hello’s” and then all of a sudden he just sticks his foot in his mouth in the most rude way. It’s amazing where human curiosity leads us to.
Like I said earlier it wasn’t the question that he asked that caught me off guard. In fact I had been asked that same question all week and I always responded as I saw fit. But he just threw me off. It just dumbfounded me on how insensitive this guy was. If I had to wear a scarf on my head for medial reasons I’m sure I would have felt a lot worse. Luckily this isn’t my case and after a few min I shrugged it off. But its experiences like this that teaches us. I have never been the kind to stare or judge a book by its cover, but this experience has taught me to be a little more conscious about people and their feelings.
My dad told me that this year would be one of changes, lessons and hardships, and I always had somewhat an idea of what to expect. But I now know that there’s more to the Iyaworaje than I could have ever imagined. I’ve only been out one week and I’ve already had a lesson, one of which many of us need to get a refresher course on, because now a days ethics are practically lost. And most use the excuse of being a blunt or honest person, but to me that’s not an excuse at all. One can be blunt, honest, polite and sensitive all at the same time. It just depends if we want to make the effort to do so.